Letters to my daughters | Bond of sisters

I don’t think that I could have asked for any better daughters then the two of you, you are my world and I am so proud to call you both mine. Last month was the first letter and since then I have had so much that I want to tell you about the strength I see in both of you and your amazing personalities. But I am leaving that for another month. I want to speak to you about being sisters and how important it is to be a good sister.

When I was pregnant with Molly, Grace, you were so involved and could not wait for the summer when your sister would arrive. You did not know what being a sister would mean yet you acted as if you had waited your whole life for this to happen. When you met her in hospital you were a bit shy and not quite sure how to react but after given 10 minutes to adjust you wanted to hold her and cuddle her.


There was no sibling rivalry from the minute we had you both. Grace you absolutely adored your sister and would do anything to protect her. As soon as Molly uttered a little cry, you were by her side and you would insist I pick her up and tell me “she needs you”. She was only a couple of days old when I heard you shouting from the living room, Molly is crying she needs you. I was busy preparing dinner and told you it was ok for Molly to cry a little, I knew that 2 minutes would not hurt your baby sister. But you had other ideas, and you lifted her up and carried her into the kitchen. Molly was no longer crying and suddenly I hear a little voice behind me saying “she needs you”. I turn around and find my tiny little 4 year old, acting like a very mature big sister cuddling your newborn baby sister in your arms. Regardless of how many times I told you that you could not to lift and carry Molly, if she cried you would try to pick her up whether she was in her pram, crib or on the floor. In the end, I ended up getting a playpen so that I could safely cook dinner, clean and tidy without the fear of you carrying your little baby sister around.  However, you did not like that you could no longer get to your baby sister. You tried to open the gate into the playpen and within days you did figure out how to climb into the playpen to be with her.


As soon as Molly was more mobile you both started to interact, for every little thing she did you shared the joy with me and your daddy. From the age of 5 you have been lucky to go on holiday with your grandparents in Norway. During the two weeks you always talked about how much you loved and missed your sister. It was never mummy or daddy you were looking forward to seeing again, it was Molly and Molly equally shared the joy of being reunited.


Even how much love I see you both have for each other; I have noticed over the past year that you have less patience for each other. You both have strong personalities and at times you are in disagreement. There has been a few little arguments appearing and at times being a big sister is not so much fun when there are friends around. I can only assume that as you both grow older there will be more bickering and arguments as I do believe this is a natural part of being a family.


What triggered me to write about the strong bond was something that happened this month. First you had a friend for a sleepover followed by you going to your friends house for a sleepover. When you came home Molly was over the moon. She could not stop hugging and kissing you. You held her on your lap for a bit and then you were both sitting on the sofa holding hands whilst watching TV. You were telling each other “I love you” and Molly was saying “I missed you”. It is clear to see that your baby sister has grown up to be just as loving with you as you are with her.

The two of you have very different personalities and at times you may not agree with what the other do, but as a sister be loyal and be supportive. Always remember the love you grew up with and the bond you both have to each other. The need to be together and how nice it is with a cuddle when you are upset, how nice it is to have your sister keep your company or help you when there is something you can’t do. Never take each other for granted and always remember to say thank you and show that you appreciate each other. 

Your grandmother (mormor) was one of four girls. When my Mormor, your great grandmother was in hospital with cancer she said to her daughters “I rather see all four together one day a week, then have you come individual”. This is something that has remained with me, it is something that has remained with my mum and it is something that emphasizes the importance of family relations. To my grandmother, watching her daughters together, their relationship and bond and it gave her great satisfaction and I can only imagine how proud she must have been. The importance of siblings is something that has remained part of our family, knowing that you have someone who will always be your special someone.  When I watch you interact and listen to you play together, my heart is filled with so much joy and huge pride. You are that special someone to each other. The bond of sisterhood you have spent the past 4 years building can only get stronger and I am so proud to see how amazing you both are together and how proud you are to call each other sisters. 


This month I am linking to the my dear friend Donna with her blog about her daughter Daisy called I dream of Daisy

By Evy Photography | Stavanger Photographer | Letters to my daughters | Lifestyle

By Evy Photography | Stavanger Photographer | Letters to my daughters | Lifestyle

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